January 20, 2014


Posted in Uncategorized at 8:11 pm by kate

I’m still not writing here but I’m interested in writing a year-end summary to look back on. So here we go.

1. What did you do in 2013 that you’d never done before?

I did a lot of small things for the first time. And I told someone a secret that I’d never ever told anyone. That was actually a really smart thing to do — it was the emotional equivalent of that dream where you realize that your apartment has rooms you’d never known were there — although at the time I was terrified.

2. Did you keep your new year’s resolutions, and will you make more for next year?

My resolutions were to keep up my tai chi practice (like some sort of fucking hippie or something) and to do a thing I wasn’t ready to talk about yet (which was going back to school). I had a hard time keeping up with my tai chi practice once I started playing rugby three days a week and I was offered a spot in one of the programs I applied to and then declined it for a lot of different reasons. This year I’m not sure what I want to do. Lose ten pounds? Keep being honest? FINALLY start wearing makeup for the love of god?

3. Did anyone close to you give birth?


4. Did anyone close to you die?

Last year, three friends died (one in May and two in December) but despite the one constant thread running through my life is that my friends keep dying, no one died this year.

5. What countries did you visit?

This answer is always the same and I’m okay with that: Mexico and the US.

6. What would you like to have in 2014 that you lacked in 2013?

Last year I said that I really did not lack anything and I think that is also true this year. I mean, I want things, but I’m a human and that’s how human nature works.

7. What dates from 2013 will remain etched upon your memory, and why?

March 13: I went on a first date. It was a Wednesday night and we met for drinks (except neither of us drank) and dinner (except I have one thousand food allergies and he was too nervous to eat very much) and then we went back to my house and kissed and it was great.  We’ve seen each other every Wednesday since except for once when he was out of the country and once when I was.

8. What was your biggest achievement of the year?

I played a whole season of muddy, vicious, full-tackle rugby. I tried to be as kind as I possibly could as much as I could.

9. What was your biggest failure?

I could have been more prudent, financially.

10. Did you suffer illness or injury?

I bruised a couple of ribs in rugby and also pulled something in my arm.

11. What was the best thing you bought?

Tickets to Mexico, a small assortment of bathing suit halves.

12. Whose behavior merited celebration?

I have to give a shout-out to goat cheese and Finn Crisp crackers, without whom I would be a withered husk slumped in the corner.

13. Whose behavior made you appalled and depressed?

My sister’s. My aunt’s.

14. Where did most of your money go?

Rent! And vegetarian, soy-free, dairy-free, corn-free, nut-free food.

15. What did you get really excited about?

Uh, shit. Going to Mexico?

16. What song will always remind you of 2013?

The whole album “Shakespeare My Butt” which I listened to one thousand times, give or take.

17. Compared to this time last year, are you:

– happier or sadder? The last four years my answer was “happier, by far” and that’s also my answer this year.
– thinner or fatter? Thinner.
– richer or poorer? Poorer, although not by much.

18. What do you wish you’d done more of?

I had to cut myself off from my sister (and her delicious, delightful kids) and it was incredibly, unbelievably painful. I wish, though, that I had done it sooner.

19. What do you wish you’d done less of?

More early morning walks, less sleeping in.

20. How did you spend Christmas?

Christmas Day is also my boyfriend’s birthday. I spent the evening of December 23rd working and barfing and then on Christmas Eve my boyfriend and his mother came over to my apartment and we had the most fun. It was lovely. He opened his birthday presents and we played board games. Christmas Day we opened our presents and went to the aquarium and then I made pie for dinner (chicken pot pie for the meat-eaters and spinach pie for me). I got a lot of great presents including a huge (huge) print of a classic green highway sign saying WELCOME TO NEW YORK to hang above my couch. The present that I had bought for my boyfriend’s mother was stuck in warehouse about 25 minutes away thanks to some shit for brains planning by UPS, which was so embarrassing that it actually went all the way back around to oh well, shit happens! Then we had birthday cake and watched Love Actually which — god forgive me — continues to be the greatest, greatest movie. I love it. Despite the barfing/working, it was actually the best Christmas I’ve ever had, hands down.

21. Did you fall in love in 2013?


22. What was your favorite TV program?

Downton Abbey, sort of. I also (finally) watched Game of Thrones and it was great, of course.

23. Do you hate anyone now that you didn’t hate this time last year?


24. What was the best book you read?

I loved (loved, loved, loved) Life After Life by Kate Atkinson.

25. What was your greatest musical discovery?

Regina Spektor, who of course wasn’t a discovery at all but someone that everyone else had been listening to all this time.

26. What did you want and get?

After Lynn died, there was some uncertainty about her house in Mexico. I was heartbroken to think that I might not get to see it again. I was lucky enough to go in April and again in January and both trips were incredible. Lots of time on the beach and snorkeling on the reef.

27. What did you want and not get?

I wanted a really crystal-clear directive from the heavens and/or god about what to do in terms of going back to school. And I wanted a giant vault of money a la Scrooge McDuck.

28. What was your favorite film of this year?

Sort of cheating, since it was 2014, but in January on the plane back from Mexico I saw Enough Said and loved it.

29. What did you do on your birthday, and how old were you?

I was 33. It was a Wednesday, conveniently, so my boyfriend came over and we went to dinner. I had a pizza with tomato sauce and basil leaves on it which was delicious. I got presents and drank wine. It was warm enough to eat outside!

30. What one thing would have made your year immeasurably more satisfying?

As a result of being very sick at the end of last year, I lost a lot of hair. It grew back (which is great) in this MADDENING fringe (not great) which spent most of the year defying my efforts to stay attached to my head (seriously, not great). At times people were like oh you cut bangs! And I’d have to say NOPE, THAT’S JUST HOW MY HEAD WORKS NOW. I’m finally at the stage where it’s basically under control but if that could have happened nine months earlier IT WOULD HAVE BEEN GREAT.

31. How would you describe your personal fashion concept in 2013?

Skirts, dresses, skirts. I wore jeans twice in 2013.

32. What kept you sane?

Honestly? Laying on the couch with my cat watching television. And walking.

33. Which celebrity/public figure did you fancy the most?

I usually have an answer for this but, shit, I don’t know!

34. What political issue stirred you the most?

Everything about the way the world works breaks my heart.

35. Who did you miss?

My friend Lynn, keenly. This summer I got a huge packet of letters that we had exchanged and they were so wonderful and heartbreaking. I miss her so much.

36. Who was the best new person you met?

My boyfriend, but not just because he’s my boyfriend — he also happens to be really great.

37. Tell us a valuable life lesson you learned in 2013.

Always be honest.